Ma and Me: A Memoir, Paperback

"A nuanced mediation on love, identity, and belonging. This story of survival radiates with resilience and hope." --Publishers Weekly (starred review)

"This openhearted memoir . . . opens the door to include queer descendants of war survivors into the growing American library of love." --Sarah Schulman, author of Let the Record Show When Putsata Reang was eleven months old, her family fled war-torn Cambodia, spending twenty-three days on an overcrowded navy vessel before finding sanctuary at an American naval base in the Philippines. Holding what appeared to be a lifeless baby, Ma resisted the captain's orders to throw her bundle overboard. Instead, on landing, Ma rushed her baby into the arms of American military nurses and doctors, who saved the child's life. "I had hope, just a little, you were still alive," Ma would tell Putsata in an oft-repeated story that became family legend. Over the years, Putsata lives to please Ma and make her proud, hustling to repay her life debt by becoming the consummate good Cambodian daughter, working steadfastly by Ma's side in the berry fields each summer and eventually building a successful career as an award-winning journalist. But Putsata's adoration and efforts are no match for Ma's expectations. When Putsata comes out to Ma in her twenties, Ma tells her it's just a phase. When Putsata fails to bring home a Khmer boyfriend, it's because she's not trying hard enough. When, at the age of forty, Putsata tells Ma she is finally getting married--to a woman--it breaks their bond in two. In her startling memoir, Putsata Reang explores the long legacy of inherited trauma and the crushing weight of cultural and filial duty. With rare clarity and lyric wisdom, Ma and Me is a stunning, deeply moving memoir about love, debt, and duty.

Putsata Reang is an author and a journalist whose work has appeared in The New York Times, Politico, The Guardian, Ms., The San Jose Mercury News, and The Seattle Times, among other publications. Born in Cambodia and raised in rural Oregon, Reang has lived and worked in more than a dozen countries, including Cambodia, Afghanistan, and Thailand. She is an alumna of residencies at Hedgebrook, the Kimmel Harding Nelson Center for the Arts, and Mineral School, and she has received fellowships from the Alicia Patterson Foundation and Jack Straw Cultural Center.

• Dimensions: 210 x 137
• Author: Putsata Reang
• Cover type: Paperback
• Publishing Year: 2023
• Publishing Month: 5
• Pages: 400
• Language: English
• Publisher: Picador USA
• Weight: 454 g